ROADBLOCKS AFFECTING YOUR CHRONIC ILLNESS – PART 2
By William for wheezingaway.com
(ALWAYS REMEMBER – A person without good breathing, is a person with a life of constant caution’, So, let’s do what we can, to learn what we can, to improve what we can. – William)
Through an e-mail listing which I am on regarding COPD, I recently received an overview of an article that was written earlier this year in the New York Times that dealt with several hidden problems or difficulties that many will find themselves facing when dealing with a life path involving a chronic illness.
I found the article interesting and enjoyed the brief outlook they gave on what they referred to as the five hidden difficulties of living or battling a chronic illness.
Among the five roadblocks they discussed were relationships, mentality, leaning on others, education and listening to advice.
Since I am constantly discussing how those with any chronic illness, even those whose illness has not put them on disability, should continue at all times reading, learning and even re-educating themselves about not only their chronic illness but any chronic illness because no matter what your battle is, anyone with a chronic illness will have many similar battles.
With each of these five roadblock discussions, one will find common ground among anyone who fights a battle with a chronic illness and with each roadblock we offer a direction to a solution – so that roadblock will not shut you down during your battle.
With this write I am taking each of the five ‘roadblocks’ to living with a chronic illness and expanding them just a bit.
Here is our second of the ‘Five Roadblocks in Living with a Chronic Illness’:
2. RELATIONSHIP CHANGES
THE POSSIBLE ISSUE: It is bad enough that a chronic illness may make a person feel as if they are a burden to their friends and family because you may feel like you are unable to go out like everyone else.
It may become more of a burden when you begin to feel like you are disappointing everyone when you know you can’t go out with your family and friends due to a chronic illness and this hold very true when it comes to those closest to you.
It is possible that you may begin to feel like you must give up your goals, dreams and enjoyments because you may not be able to attain them anymore due to a chronic illness.
This all can begin to feel like a big burden on your psyche when you are feeling as if things are changing, especially when it comes to relationships and it’s because you just sense that you are unable to keep up.
THE POSSIBLE SOLUTION: While relationships may seem to be changing, those that are true will not love you any less.
Those who treasure you the most should and will understand the difficulties you may find in going out with family or friends depending on your chronic illness.
But these same folks will also be the first ones to say yes if the opportunity arrives for them to come over to spend time with you.
If one takes the time to simply explain to those closest to them, of the issues you may be facing when trying to go out, then those who care the most will most likely help in finding solutions to make it easier for you.
While you may have to make adjustments in life to reach those goals and dreams you may have thought were becoming out of reach, a chronic illness doesn’t mean you need to give up on them when all you need to do is be honest about them and not give up.
If necessary, some may find the need to consult with a therapist, psychologist or spiritual leader to help you figure out how and what you need to do to continue going about reaching some of those goals and dreams while helping keep those relationships.
OUR CONCLUSION: Always remember that you have enough battles going on with any chronic illness or disease, so as many would say – ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’. And while relationships and knowing that many of those times you may want to share with them but won’t be able to due to your chronic illness or disease can become a burden on your psyche, it doesn’t have to.
First and foremost, always be upfront and honest about what is going on at any moment in your battle with chronic illness, especially with those closest to you – if your relationship really does matter to them, then they will understand and be there beside you as you continue to take those steps moving forward. It they don’t stick around, don’t let it eat you up as you will find others who will be more understanding and caring to take their place – I know because it has happened to me.
Move on, continue to move forward and be honest, as all relationships should start with that.
That is it folks for the second of the five possible roadblocks of being chronically ill that may lead to an issue with one’s daily psyche. Stay tuned for the remaining three possible roadblocks, remembering that it can be considered part of that point I always stress where we with any chronic illness need to stay attuned and alert to any and all new or previous knowledge that offers any glimpse of hope with getting through the battles.
AS ALWAYS – if you or anyone you know may have any symptoms involving lung and breathing functionality, and those symptoms linger over and over while disrupting a lifestyle – then please start asking questions and get it checked out!
With that, I bid to all – smiles, prayers, blessings and steady breathing. William
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NOTES: Sometimes we share what may seem like medical information, but we are only giving descriptions and highlights of various aspects of having COPD and/or Asthma and no way do we ever want our information to be considered medical