ROADBLOCKS – PART 3 – LISTENING TO ADVICE
By William for wheezingaway.com
(ALWAYS REMEMBER – A person without good breathing, is a person with a life of constant caution’. So, let’s do what we can, to learn what we can, to improve what we can. – William)
Through an e-mail listing which I am on regarding COPD, I recently received an overview of an article that was written earlier this year in the New York Times that dealt with several hidden problems or difficulties that many will find themselves facing when dealing with a life path involving a chronic illness.
I found the article interesting and enjoyed the brief outlook they gave on what they referred to as the five hidden difficulties of living or battling a chronic illness.
Among the five roadblocks they discussed were relationships, mentality, leaning on others, education and listening to advice.
Since I am constantly discussing how those with any chronic illness, even those whose illness has not put them on disability, should continue at all times reading, learning and even re-educating themselves about not only their chronic illness but any chronic illness because no matter what your battle is, anyone with a chronic illness will have many similar battles.
With each of these five roadblock discussions, one will find common ground among anyone who fights a battle with a chronic illness and with each roadblock we offer a direction to a solution – so that roadblock will not shut you down during your battle.
With this write I am taking each of the five ‘roadblocks’ to living with a chronic illness and expanding them just a bit.
Here is our third of the ‘Five Roadblocks in Living with a Chronic Illness’:
3. TAKE ADVICE WITH A GRAIN OF SALT!
THE POSSIBLE ISSUE: There are a lot of people that will cross your walk of life that will be trying to tell you how to get better or better yet, they will try and tell you that you really are okay in the first place.
It seems that everyone will think and tell you that they may have a cure for you and your chronic illness or worse yet they will think and tell you that you really aren’t sick at all. In other words, they either think your chronic illness is curable or you are just faking it.
These kind of people can cause an unbelievable amount of stress for you because every time they bring the subject up of your chronic illness with this type of thought or attitude, it will make you feel as if nobody in the world believes you.
The biggest issue with folks like these is that it can make you feel very discouraged when you begin to chalk up the number of people of think you have a curable chronic illness or that you are just a fake.
THE POSSIBLE SOLUTION: Though it does seem very disheartening to hear others reference these type of thoughts and act toward you as if you are really okay, you don’t need to listen to them.
You are the only one who really knows the battles you go through when dealing with your chronic illness or disease. So take the opinions and thoughts of others with a grain of salt !
For many chronic illnesses and diseases, there will be no known cure which means that the recommendations from others will pretty much not cure your particular chronic illness or disease either.
While many scientists are looking for those cures in thousands of diseases and chronic illnesses, it most likely is not that person who was just talking to you and seemed so confident that you can be cured.
And for those who may treat you as if you are faking it, just remember they most likely do not have a medical degrees so it is to your best interest to totally disregard their comments and/or attitude.
OUR CONCLUSION: There will always be people who cross our path of life that will not want to take the time to get to know and understand us, and that seems to be particularly true when it comes to those of us who have a sometimes daily battle with a chronic illness or disease.
The sad part sometimes will be when it seems to be some of those who we have thought were closest to us that at times will speak of such possible cures as if they truly understand what we may be going through.
When a person or group treat you as if you are faking it, don’t take it to heart because many times the odds are that they or one of them will someday in their life come face to face with a possible battle with a chronic illness or disease and then they will wonder how people can or would treat them so unkindly with false hope of cures or laugh because they think they are faking it. That is when we call it karma!!
Many times others and myself will bring up a favorite saying of so many – DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF – and that folks is exactly what it is regarding those who just think they know the cure to your chronic illness or disease. Their thoughts or comments are the small stuff when you consider all those folks who are around you that do and will understand the true battles you go through on even a daily basis.
Like many of these five roadblocks – just brush the comments or unreliable cures off your shoulder of life and move forward, as you know it will be them who hurt the most in the end when they realize just how uneducated or silly their comments or suggestions may have been.
That is it folks for the third of the five possible roadblocks of being chronically ill that may lead to an issue with one’s daily psyche. Stay tuned for the remaining two possible roadblocks, remembering that it can be considered part of that point I always stress where we with any chronic illness need to stay attuned and alert to any and all new or previous knowledge that offers any glimpse of hope with getting through the battles.
AS ALWAYS – if you or anyone you know may have any symptoms involving lung and breathing functionality, and those symptoms linger over and over while disrupting a lifestyle – then please start asking questions and get it checked out!
With that, I bid to all – smiles, prayers, blessings and steady breathing. William
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NOTES: Sometimes we share what may seem like medical information, but we are only giving descriptions and highlights of various aspects of having COPD and/or Asthma and no way do we ever want our information to be considered medical