ROADBLOCKS – PART 5 – LEAN ON OTHERS
By William for wheezingaway.com
(ALWAYS REMEMBER – A person without good breathing, is a person with a life of constant caution’, So, let’s do what we can, to learn what we can, to improve what we can. – William)
Through an e-mail listing which I am on regarding COPD, I recently received an overview of an article that was written earlier this year in the New York Times that dealt with several hidden problems or difficulties that many will find themselves facing when dealing with a life path involving a chronic illness.
I found the article interesting and enjoyed the brief outlook they gave on what they referred to as the five hidden difficulties of living or battling a chronic illness.
Among the five roadblocks they discussed were relationships, mentality, leaning on others, education and listening to advice.
Since I am constantly discussing how those with any chronic illness, even those whose illness has not put them on disability, should continue at all times reading, learning and even re-educating themselves about not only their chronic illness but any chronic illness because no matter what your battle is, anyone with a chronic illness will have many similar battles.
With each of these five roadblock discussions, one will find common ground among anyone who fights a battle with a chronic illness and with each roadblock we offer a direction to a solution – so that roadblock will not shut you down during your battle.
With this write I am taking each of the five ‘roadblocks’ to living with a chronic illness and expanding them just a bit.
Here is the fifth and final of the ‘Five Roadblocks in Living with a Chronic Illness’:
5. LEAN ON OTHERS!
THE POSSIBLE ISSUE:
Living with a disease or chronic illness can make one feel very alone and very separated from others.
At times one will feel as if those around them, including family and friends, do know what you are going through and that as we have discussed can be very difficult.
When you are having moments like that, a person will feel as if they have no one else in the world to lean on when in reality it is normally very far from the truth.
Are you aware that some of the latest statistics claim that nearly six out of every 10 Americans are living with a minimum of one chronic condition! That’s nearly 60%, which means we are never alone when it comes to battling any kind of a chronic ailment, disease/illness.
The question really comes down to whether or not one feels as if they can lean on someone else when they need those moments of support.
One will find that the answer may not just be on how much we need to lean on others, but how much we are willing to let others lean on us. As with many other situations in our walk of life, how much we give may count much toward how much we get back – in other words, how much we allow others to lean on us may go a long ways to how much others may allow us to lean on them.
THE POSSIBLE SOLUTION:
Did you know that if you research online that one can most likely find several support groups which help people relate to the same or similar conditions you find yourself walking with each and every day in your walk of life. And if you look enough, you most likely will even find a support group or program that may even be within your area.
The thing about finding groups of people that may be going through the same things you are, you may also find those who can help you learn more about your chronic illness and as we have stated before, the more you learn the better you can make it.
Remember, those who may already be in these support groups may be walking along at different stages than you may be, but that may be ok because we all walk our walk on our own timeline.
Nice thing about groups is there are many to help you through situations, while at the same time you may find yourself helping someone as well with issues that maybe you have already dealt with.
When we say you should lean on others, it is due to the fact that survival works better with numbers than it will by one’s self.
By the way, we are not suggesting that you only lean on others through support groups, as one should always have at least a few folks, whether it be family members or friends, that they can count on for a more personal face-to-face type of support meeting. These one-on-one support folks help when sometimes the situation we are trying to deal with may seem much too personal to share with larger numbers of people.
So, the solution is to not isolate yourself and staying active with either a small or individual support set up, or maybe finding support with a group. And it is okay in many situations to try and have both available for those really difficult bumps our path may hit when dealing with a chronic illness or disease.
This roadblock number five may be for some the most important one to remember in that one should never isolate themselves and should always have at least a few folks or groups to lean on while dealing with those constant bumps in the road one will have when fighting a chronic illness/disease.
It is truly sad when we see others get themselves isolated, no matter whether it is by choice or happenings, as isolation can lead to those type of bumps in the walk of life that can become very difficult to bounce back from – like depression and unworthiness.
While we have discussed the other four possible roadblocks such as mentality, relationship changes, taking advice with a grain of salt and staying educated – this number five, Lean on Others, in our conclusion says it should be the most important.
It is never good when one shuts down and isolates themselves, we as humans need others for interaction and socialization. We as humans also need others to help with those emotional struggles we all go through, especially those of us who are fighting a chronic illness and/or disease.
FINALLY – That is it folks, this was the fifth of the five possible roadblocks of being chronically ill that may lead to an issue with one’s daily psyche or walk. Sometimes one must remember these and maybe come back to look them over, that is part of the education stuff, as then they will gradually become part of your way of looking and living.
As we continue to stress to others, if you have a chronic illness or disease then you must always stay attuned and alert to any and all new or previous knowledge that will offer any glimpse of hope and faith of getting through one’s own battles.
AS ALWAYS – if you or anyone you know may have any symptoms involving lung and breathing functionality, and those symptoms linger over and over while disrupting a lifestyle – then please start asking questions and get it checked out!
With that, I bid to all – smiles, prayers, blessings and steady breathing. William
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NOTES: Sometimes we share what may seem like medical information, but we are only giving descriptions and highlights of various aspects of having COPD and/or Asthma and no way do we ever want our information to be considered medical advice.